P. & F. - Lesbian couple from England

For how long were you thinking about having a baby?

1-2 years.

What were the first steps that you undertook when your wish for a baby grew?

We did some online research and attended an open evening at a clinic in the UK (which we didn't like). We had visited Copenhagen previously on holiday, and so when we learned about TFP Stork Fertility, we thought that we would pursue treatment in Denmark.

Did your wish for a child have an effect on your relationship with your partner?

I think it had a positive impact on our relationship; having a baby was something that we both wanted, so it felt good to be able to go through the experience together. The inevitable ups and downs along the way made us closer.

Why did you decide to undergo fertility treatment at TFP Stork Fertility?

We really liked the holistic approach offered by TFP Stork Fertility compared to similar clinics in the UK. We felt like although we could access fertility treatment in the UK as an 'alternative family', at TFP Stork Fertility we were treated as a family. The warmth of the staff and the lovely surroundings at TFP Stork Fertility were a big draw.

How would you explain the atmosphere at TFP Stork Fertility?

We love the surroundings at TFP Stork Fertility; it is a calm and peaceful environment with more than a touch of cocooning. We always feel at home there.

Which words best describe the team working at the TFP Stork Fertility?

All of the staff we encountered were friendly, professional and kind. We felt like they really cared about us.

What were the reactions of your friends or family and during and after your fertility treatment?

We didn't really share the information with our friends and family during treatment, as we felt it would increase the pressure on us. However, they were all really excited and supportive when I became pregnant.

Who was your biggest support during your fertility treatment?

My lovely wife, Faye.

During the fertility treatment did you get to know other lesbian couples that were in the same or similar situation as you, and if so, are you still in touch with them?

We didn't meet anyone through TFP Stork Fertility, although I have friends in the UK who have a donor-conceived child.

Which situation gave you the most hope and when did you experience fear and anxiety?

Every time we came for insemination we were hopeful; however, experiencing a miscarriage and then starting to try to conceive again was very scary.

Did the fertility treatment affect your body in some way?

The process as a whole definitely made me eat healthier and exercise more; I wanted to give myself the best possible chance of conceiving.

Do you know the sperm donor of your child or is he anonymous/open? How did you decide?

We used an open donor; we wanted our son to have the option to contact his donor when he is older.

What advice can you give to other lesbian couples that are in the same situation as you?

Try to enjoy the process rather than focussing on the result because, inevitably, there are good times and hard times. Having a baby has been such an adventure!