Whether you are having treatment this Christmas or you have had a failed cycle, we know this time is challenging. That is, even without adding a pandemic into the mix.
Although many will feel a sense of relief that they are not obliged to socialise with as many family members, friends and children, it is hard to escape the constant reminder that another year has past and there still isn’t a baby. The constant adverts and seasonal cheer, showing families, children and toys are enough to drive anyone round the bend, least of all someone who wants that more than anything in the world.
That’s why we have pulled together a list of hints, tips and tricks to help you prepare for the festive period.
You must remember to be kind to yourself. It is completely normal to experience a rollercoaster of emotions when going through fertility treatment but you must be fair to yourself and to remember that you are not alone and that you will get through it.
Taking the time to evaluate and deal with negative thoughts and feelings might not seem important but quick exercises such as visualisation can help you to remember what is important, lending perspective when you need it the most.
Everyone has their preferred Christmas traditions but in a year that has been turned upside down, will sticking to yours make a difference? If not consider creating a new tradition that allows you to prepare yourself for stepping into the New Year with your head held high. It could be as simple as taking the time to recharge your batteries or go as far as achieving something you’ve been putting off.
Christmas is a time where you are often focused on others, just don’t forget that your wellbeing is important. With the extra time off, do what is right for you. You do not need to agree to anything that makes the season harder than it already is. Assessing what you would like to do, what you would not like to do and what you really would like to do will help you to plan your time to suit you.
If you think it is going to be tough, why not plan to meet with a counsellor (virtually of course) to talk through your thoughts and feelings. Knowing there is someone to turn to will give you the opportunity to talk about your fertility journey, that you might not otherwise want to when socialising with friends and family.
If you think you are going to end up in a situation where someone will decide to ask ‘when are you having children?’ then try to craft a response in advance that will help you to deliver a response without triggering your deepest emotions. Just remember you can’t say the wrong thing, they shouldn’t be asking in the first place.
It’s okay to not be ok! 2021 is a fresh start for everyone, including you. So, you plan to do this Christmas be kind to yourself, do what you enjoy and focus on where you are going, rather than where you are at.